Recently a bad news came to us, my best friend texted me that her
father just died. The moment I have receibed her message, I was so shock and could not believe it and I was so confused whether it's tru or not (I just wanted to confirm the bad news ). I told my aunt about it and she said to continue texting her but do not ask about the death until they confirmed it. So I texted her brother and he confirmed the death of their father.
We visited the funeral wake and held our condolences to the family. I almost cried when I embraced my best friend's mother but I composed myself to not make a scene. And then we ask our friend on how she was coping and dealing with all of t his and she said she cried a lot when she found out and she could not cry anymore, I mean she wanted to cry but no more tears will fall (I also experience then, I remember we were in a restaurant and could not eat anything and I just feel really weak). So we told her to be strong and ask for guidance to our Father Jesus Christ.
So I have decided to write an article about Grief and its coping mechanisms. Grief comes first whenever we have a major loss particularly to the loss of our family members or loved ones. It may be associated with shock and denial. Shock comes first when you found out about what had happen (Just like what happened to me when my mother died and now my best friend is experiencing it ), and denial is our initial reaction when we found out the sad truth.
There are stages of grief and these are:
- DENIAL AND ISOLATION
- ANGER
- BARGAINING
- DEPRESSION
- ACCEPTANCE
The first stage is Denial and Isolation: Denial comes when we could not accept the truth behind every situation and we separate ourselves from facts, hide our feelings and pretend that we are ok but these are all normal reaction from pain.
